10 amazing facts about rejection
We know that suffering rejection is really painful. Being rejected will not only cause painful emotions, but also cause harm to our mental health. The following 10 little-known facts reflect the various effects of rejection on our emotions, thinking, and behavior. Let us first examine why refusal causes so much harm to us:
1. Suffering rejection is the same as physical pain in the brain. MRI studies have shown that when we experience rejection, some areas in the brain are activated, which are the same areas that are activated when the body experiences pain. This is why rejection can cause so much harm (in terms of nervous system). In fact, our brain responds to physical pain or rejection so similarly that ..
2. The painkiller Tylenol can reduce the pain caused by refusal. The researchers conducted a test to test the hypothesis that suffering was similar to physical pain. Before the test, the researchers asked some testers to take Tylenol, while others took sugar pills, and then asked them to recall a painful experience of rejection. The test report showed that those who took Tylenol had much less emotional pain than those who took sugar pills. Therefore, psychologists speculate that there is such a strong connection between refusal and physical pain because ...
3. Refused to play a vital role in the history of human evolution. In the era of hunting or gathering, people who were exiled from the tribe were sentenced to death, because they could not survive alone for long. Evolutionary psychologists suspect that the brain has developed an early warning system to alert people to the danger of being exiled. Because it is so important to draw our attention, those who experience rejection is very painful (that is, rejection and the pain in the brain cause similar reactions in the brain) to gain an evolutionary advantage, and they are more likely to correct their behavior, and Therefore, it is more likely to stay in the tribe. This may also explain why ...
4. Our repetitive experience of the social suffering we have suffered is often more real and fresh than the physical pain. Try to recall an experience that caused you intense physical pain, and your brain circuit will reflect, "Uh". In other words, the memory itself does not cause physical pain. But try to relive the pain caused by being rejected (in fact do n’t do it, just believe me), many feelings of being rejected now will overwhelm you again (your brain will also respond to feelings at that time) . The reason why our brain prefers to reject experiences is because we are social animals and we live in "tribes". This leads us to ignore the reaction caused by rejection ...
5. Rejection threatens our "need to belong". We all have a basic need to belong to a group. When we are rejected, this need becomes unstable, and the loss of connection we feel enhances our pain. Connecting with people who love us again, or turning to some people from our deeply intimate group, who value and accept us, was found to ease the pain after rejection. However, the impact of feeling isolated or disconnected on our behavior after being rejected is often overlooked ...
6. Suffering from refusing to intensify anger and aggression. A report released by the US Secretary of Public Health in 2001 pointed out that youth violence caused by rejection is more harmful than drugs, poverty, or participation in gangsters. Numerous studies have shown that even a slight rejection can cause people to vent their anger on innocent others. School shootings, violent injuries to women, and “misbehavior” of dismissed employees also reflect the close connection between rejection and aggression. However, most of the aggressiveness caused by refusal also turns to inner ...
7. Refusal causes us to embark on the journey of seeking and will destroy self-esteem. When we respond to a rejected experience in a romantic relationship, we usually find our own problems, lament our deficiencies, regret when we are already low, and completely destroy self-esteem. Almost all rejections in love are caused by mismatches, lack of chemical reactions, incompatible lifestyles, wanting different things at different times, or other similar interaction mechanisms. Blaming ourselves and attacking self-worth only exacerbate our emotional pain and make it harder for us to recover emotionally. So before you start blaming yourself, you must remember this fact ...
8. Rejection will temporarily reduce our IQ. If you ask the tester to recall and revisit a recently rejected experience, this is enough to cause them to significantly reduce their scores in subsequent IQ tests, such as short-term memory tests and decision-making tests. In fact, when we are in pain caused by rejection, it is not so easy to think clearly. This explains why ...
9. Reason cannot relieve the pain of rejection. The researchers conducted a test, and its participants were rejected by strangers. Experiments were manipulated-"strangers" were actually sought by researchers. Surprisingly, even if the participants were told that the "strangers" who rejected them did not really reject them, they did not alleviate the emotional pain experienced by the participants. Even if the participants were told that the strangers belonged to the group they despised, such as the 3K Party, they could not calm the emotional harm they suffered. But this news is not all bad, because ...
10. There are ways to treat the psychological damage caused by refusal. People can now use certain methods to treat the emotional pain caused by rejection and prevent its subsequent effects on emotions, cognition and relationships. To do this effectively, we must address every psychological trauma (ie, soothe our painful feelings, reduce our anger and aggressiveness, protect our self-esteem, and stabilize our sense of belonging).
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